Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Who is a spiritual companion? And About Me

Who is a spiritual companion?
Like you, I am a spiritual seeker. Like you, I have not "arrived," I am still in the midst of my own journey.

I prefer to use the term "spiritual companion" rather than "spiritual director" because it better conveys the nature of the relationship. Spiritual companions receive extensive training and formation in the art of their ministry, and bring years of life experience and preparation to this ancient practice. Like all spiritual companions, I have a deep commitment to my own ongoing spiritual formation, which means continuing education, engaging in my own confidential supervision, and meeting regularly with my own spiritual director.

About me
My life experience includes the grief of losing a parent and a failed marriage, the joy of fatherhood, the struggle of working my way out of an occupation which brought me no joy, and battles against depression and loneliness. It also includes the peace of finding my vocation through contemplative prayer, being filled up with the Spirit in a worshipful community, and the graces of companions who helped my heart awaken to new possibilities -- the ones God had dreamed for me all along.

My formation experience started in my early adolescence, although I didn't realize it at the time. It became a conscious choice when I was baptized at the age of 37 (prompted by the realization that I was bringing my children to Sunday school but that I hadn't even accepted Christianity myself). It accelerated when I suffered through the losses of relationship, occupation, and the "things" I thought were important, but most especially when I struggled with a terrible isolation from my family. Finally, it has flowered in my seminary experience, where spiritual and academic mentors guided me through formative experiences on pilgrimage and in chaplaincy, spiritual direction, pastoral care and counseling, and ministry. I remain a student in those disciplines today.

An important part of my spirituality stems from my choice to follow the example of Sts. Francis and Clare. I am a perpetually professed member of the Ordo Franciscanus Saecularis -- an 800 year old order which has its roots in the medieval "order of penitents." This is why you will see the letters "OFS" after my name. Our focus lies in our willingness to offer a ministry of compassion to and solidarity with the most vulnerable, which we nourish by a commitment to live a Gospel life and by constantly seeking to turn our hearts towards God. As it is for all human beings, that is lifelong work! (Please see other posts and links on Franciscan spirituality for more information.)

As a spiritual companion, I invite you into a mutual sharing of our journeys -- as two sojourners on the road to Emmaus, both accompanied by our "real" spiritual director. 


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