Wednesday, August 20, 2014

How others describe "spiritual direction"

Following is a sampling of how others describe the ministry of "spiritual direction":

"Spiritual direction is a time honored term for a conversation, ordinarily between two persons, in which one person consults another, more spiritually experienced person about the ways in which God may be touching his or her life, directly or indirectly. In our postmodern age, many people dislike the term 'spiritual direction' because it sounds like one person giving directions, or orders, to another. They prefer 'spiritual companionship,' 'tending the holy,' or some other nomenclature. What we call it doesn't make any real difference. The reality remains conversations about life in the light of faith."
  • Marian Cowan, CSJ

"Many people would agree that spiritual direction means a companionship with another person or group through which the Holy One shines with wisdom, encouragement, and discernment."
  • Gerald May, MD

"Spiritual direction is, in reality, nothing more than a way of leading us to see and obey the real Director -- the Holy Spirit hidden in the depths of our soul."
  • Thomas Merton, Trappist Monk

"We define Christian spiritual direction as [the offer of presence] given by one Christian to another which enables that person to pay attention to God's personal communication to him or her, to respond to this personally communicating God, to grow in intimacy with this God, and to live out the consequences of the relationship."
  • William A. Barry, SJ and William J. Connolly, SJ, Center for Religious Development

"Spiritual direction can mean different things to different people. Some people understand it to be the art of listening carried out in the context of a trusting relationship. It is when one person is trained to be a competent guide who then 'companions' another person, listening to that person's life story with an ear for the movement of the Holy, of the Divine."
  • Rev. Jeffrey S. Gaines

"The marks of a spiritual director are love, kindliness, and a real compassion. The language used is one of healing and growth rather than that of the law court with its judgment, condemnation, and punishment….its practitioners are counsellors, confessors, and physicians of the soul, not judges. There is warmth and a lightness of touch."
  • Canon Peter W. Ball

"The whole purpose of spiritual direction is to penetrate beneath the surface of a persons life, to get behind the façade of conventional gestures and attitudes which one presents to the world, and to bring out one's inner spiritual freedom, one's inmost truth, which is what [Christians] call the likeness of Christ in one's soul. This is an entirely supernatural (spiritual) thing, for the work of rescuing the inner person from automatism belongs first of all to the Holy Spirit."
  • Fr. Thomas Merton, Trappist Monk

"The greatest teacher is silence. To come out of interior silence and to practice its radiance, its love, its concern for others, its submission to God's will, its trust in God even in the tragic situations is the fruit of living from your inmost center, from the contemplative space within. The signs of coming from this space are a peace that is rarely upset by events, other people, and our reactions to them, and a calm that is a stabilizing force in whatever environment you may be in. God gives us everything we need to be happy in the present moment, no matter what the evidence to the contrary may be. A good spiritual director helps us to sustain that trust."
  • Fr. Thomas Keating, Trappist Monk

Who is a spiritual companion? And About Me

Who is a spiritual companion?
Like you, I am a spiritual seeker. Like you, I have not "arrived," I am still in the midst of my own journey.

I prefer to use the term "spiritual companion" rather than "spiritual director" because it better conveys the nature of the relationship. Spiritual companions receive extensive training and formation in the art of their ministry, and bring years of life experience and preparation to this ancient practice. Like all spiritual companions, I have a deep commitment to my own ongoing spiritual formation, which means continuing education, engaging in my own confidential supervision, and meeting regularly with my own spiritual director.

About me
My life experience includes the grief of losing a parent and a failed marriage, the joy of fatherhood, the struggle of working my way out of an occupation which brought me no joy, and battles against depression and loneliness. It also includes the peace of finding my vocation through contemplative prayer, being filled up with the Spirit in a worshipful community, and the graces of companions who helped my heart awaken to new possibilities -- the ones God had dreamed for me all along.

My formation experience started in my early adolescence, although I didn't realize it at the time. It became a conscious choice when I was baptized at the age of 37 (prompted by the realization that I was bringing my children to Sunday school but that I hadn't even accepted Christianity myself). It accelerated when I suffered through the losses of relationship, occupation, and the "things" I thought were important, but most especially when I struggled with a terrible isolation from my family. Finally, it has flowered in my seminary experience, where spiritual and academic mentors guided me through formative experiences on pilgrimage and in chaplaincy, spiritual direction, pastoral care and counseling, and ministry. I remain a student in those disciplines today.

An important part of my spirituality stems from my choice to follow the example of Sts. Francis and Clare. I am a perpetually professed member of the Ordo Franciscanus Saecularis -- an 800 year old order which has its roots in the medieval "order of penitents." This is why you will see the letters "OFS" after my name. Our focus lies in our willingness to offer a ministry of compassion to and solidarity with the most vulnerable, which we nourish by a commitment to live a Gospel life and by constantly seeking to turn our hearts towards God. As it is for all human beings, that is lifelong work! (Please see other posts and links on Franciscan spirituality for more information.)

As a spiritual companion, I invite you into a mutual sharing of our journeys -- as two sojourners on the road to Emmaus, both accompanied by our "real" spiritual director. 


What happens in spiritual accompaniment?

What happens in a spiritual accompaniment session?

What we discuss during a session is what seems significant in your life. It could be exploring a dream or critical issue, discerning life choices, discovering ways to pray, grappling with successes and failures (from your perspective), and searching for ways to turn your heart towards God. It could be as simple as exploring a longing, or even a question that persists over time.

As your spiritual companion, I will remain present to you through deep listening, evocative questions, support, and most especially, by creating a safe environment where you can openly and prayerfully explore where God's spirit is leading you.

What spiritual accompaniment is NOT:

  • Spiritual accompaniment is not counseling.
  • Spiritual accompaniment is not therapy.
  • Spiritual accompaniment is not life coaching or financial advice.

While it might be appropriate, at times, to discuss personal and/or relational struggles in a spiritual accompaniment session, I do not provide pscyho-therapy services. In fact, some people participate in both simultaneously. Advice is not given, and decisions taken on important life matters are entirely your own.

Within each of us lies the desire to find meaning beyond our immediate experience, to discover our true selves, and to grow closer to God and to one another. A spiritual accompaniment session is where we can engage in the work which may satisfy those longings. 




Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Introducing Spiritual Accompaniment with Greg Colley, OFS

What is "spiritual accompaniment"?
Spiritual accompaniment is a ministry of listening, discernment, and prayer in a confidential setting of encouragement and compassion. Traditionally it has been called "spiritual direction," but in my approach, it is not really about one person "directing" the other. Rather, it is about my being present with you as you seek the path which draws you closer to God. And this is a journey of continuous exploration across the warp and weft of your life, not a short term pursuit of milestones. 

Spiritual accompaniment has been called “holy listening.” In spiritual accompaniment, we pledge to journey together for a time in order to listen together for the voice of the Divine in your life. Through listening, reflecting, in a confidential setting of prayer and encouragement, we seek to discern God’s leading. The goal of Spiritual Accompaniment is well-expressed in hymn: to see God more clearly, love God more dearly, and follow God more nearly in our daily lives. The goal of spiritual accompaniment is that you grow closer to God and become more the person God dreamed you to be. I believe spirituality is a universal aspect of human life, and so this is an exploration of the spiritual aspect of being human.

As a spiritual companion, my role is to listen and journey with you while you discern the presence and work of God’s spirit in your life. As your companion, I intentionally set aside the concerns of my own life to listen and attend to your experience of God in your  life.

Spiritual accompaniment is more about the path to joy that leads through life's challenges than it is about short term happiness. It is more about becoming conscious of God's presence and love in your life than it is about specific prayer practices (although we can talk about those, too). It is more about questions than it is answers.

There are many gifts in spiritual accompaniment.
Here are just a few that you might experience:
  • Noticing and savoring your own experiences of God
  • Finding ways to integrate spirituality into your daily life
  • Receiving understanding, encouragement, and affirmation
  • Discerning and making important or difficult choices
  • Sharing challenges, losses, or disappointments
  • Celebrating joys, accomplishments, and moments of gratitude
  • Developing a sensitivity for justice and concern for the poor
  • Growing in your relationship with God, yourself, others, and all of creation
  • Deepening your freedom to live a more authentic life
Please explore some of the resources I have provided on these pages, including:
What happens in spiritual accompaniment?
Who is a spiritual companion?

And feel free to send me a message or give me a call if you would like to speak to me or meet with me.

May God grant you peace!